You better shape up, cause I need a man and my heart is set on you

Hello Blog,

I had quite the weekend. I hung out with Ray Charles Friday night and we had some good convos. Then Saturday night I was at my friend's birthday, but as always drank too much. Sunday was an unpleasant day. I'm now back at work after five days off, and all I wanted to do was to go tubing in this amazing river. I went last year and have been trying to get my family to go again this summer. Maybe later this week.

The movie "Practical Magic" was on last night, an old favourite of mine. It has always made me think about things and it's a very interesting movie. After watching it again I've started to look at things like love in a different way. In the movie Sandra Bullock plays Sally, whose family is from a long line of witches. Sally and her sister were raised by their witch aunts after their mother killed herself...she was grief stricken from a broken heart after their father died....there is apparently a curse on the women of the family where if one of the women finds true love he will die tragically (as her father did). Unlike her sister who can't wait to fall in love, a young Sally witnesses a woman in town pining over a man and the pain she goes through when the feelings are not mutual. She decides she never wants to fall in love so she will never die from a broken heart, and she casts a spell to fall in love with a man who has many odd traits (such as one green eye and one blue eye). She believes such a man (her "perfect man") does not exist, and therefore she will never fall in love.

When she is older her aunts cast another spell so she does fall in love with a man in town, as they just want her to be happy. Although the aunts never expected her to truly be in love, Sally ends up marrying him and has two daughters with him, but due to the curse he also dies tragically leaving her heart broken. She refuses to accept she only loved him because of her aunts' spell. Much more happens in the movie, but the main point I'm discussing is Sally's aversion to love. However, later on in the movie her "perfect man" (he has all the traits she mentioned in her spell when she was younger) appears and they instantly fall in love. She believes this is only happening because of the spell she cast when she was a kid, so she tells him to leave since it's not "real." There's a flashback to when he was a kid and how her spell reached him, and he says he wished for her too. Eventually the curse is lifted and Sally's perfect man comes back and they live happily ever after.

So my whole point about this is how maybe some people who have super high expectations of their "perfect man" only do so because they don't actually want to fall in love with anyone. They know that perfect person doesn't actually exist, so they think they're safe. But what happens when you do find them? What if you think he does exist after all? There's only so much that wishing and magic can do in this world since we're not witches...and Sally did fall in love twice, and her first love wasn't her "perfect man" either. So maybe the whole point is we just need to try things and take risks and stop trying to be so safe.

Alright, enough of this silly stuff.

+ Lorelie